Morning Loves we are super excited today as we get to introduce you to the lovely Emma who is our third real bride who is going to be gracing our pages and her plans look EPIC we are just in lust with her festoon lighting take it away Emma…
Jamie and I live in Bradford, West Yorkshire. I’m originally from Chorley, Lancashire, but I came to Bradford in 2000 to study my degree at the University of Bradford and well, basically I never went home! Before I knew it, I had bought a house and met my own Yorkshire man!
Jamie and I became an item in 2005, he was singing in a local band with his friends. I knew ‘of him’ because The First Few performed in the same pub that my MoH’s partner’s band performed in. The only time we had spoken was one night, at the bar of the Melborne, when he stood on my foot and we shared our first “sorry” and some small chit-chat.
Though if you were to ask Jamie about this moment, he would tell you I put my foot in his way on purpose and that he took one look at me and thought I looked ridiculous since I was wearing a friend’s trilby at the time. According to Jamie I do not suit most hats. However, fast forward 6 months and we became an item.
I work at the University of Bradford as Acting Senior Communications Manager and Jamie works for Sainsbury’s as a Store Manager. We both have crazy jobs, Jamie works strange hours and it’s not uncommon for me to be in London or working at evening dinners or events – so we don’t often get to spend a lot of time together.
I love the simple things that girls love; seeing the girls and shopping; as well photography and cooking. When Jamie isn’t working he’s on his PlayStation, seeing friends or watching football. When we do get time together we enjoy cooking, shopping, eating out and, when we can, going on holiday.
The ‘subject’ of a proposal had been around for a while in our house. Well, you’d imagine it to be after eight years. Every time there was a wedding proposal in our friendship circle, or a wedding we would attend people would do one of two things:
1. They would tell me “it’ll be you next!”
2. Ask Jamie when he was going to pop the question
While I’d smile politely Jamie would reply to them by telling them that they had just “added another six months onto the big question.”
I think if you know deep down you’ll get married, then while the frustration of being desperate to get married never goes away, you can be comfortable in the knowledge that it will happen. One day.
Our ‘one day’ came in July, earlier this year. We went to the Trafford Centre and basically ended up buying a ring! We didn’t go specifically to look at rings, but after looking in some windows and some ‘trying on’, Jamie decided to buy it but told me he would keep it and pop the question when he was ready. The ring was sent to be resized and would take up to two weeks. That Friday, five days later, the ring was back in the store and ready to be collected. With crazy work schedules, the only time we could go together to collect the ring was that Sunday.
Sunday 7 July. Wimbledon Final: when Andy Murray finally did it. Jamie was not massively impressed with this! I’ve got previous for ruining sporting events for Jamie! We watched the first couple of sets at home but we needed to set off so we had to listen to the match on the radio on the way over. Once in the Trafford Centre we had to use our phones to keep up to speed with the match – but reception wasn’t great. So we picked up the ring and Andy Murray won.
When we got back to Bradford, we went and sat on the moors in Baildon and watched the sun set. As we sat there Jamie told me that it seemed fitting that the ring had arrived on the Wimbledon Final day. He reminded me that when we had first got together he missed probably the best Champions League Final ever because he came to see me and furthermore I made him go and view a house when Manchester City and Manchester United were both in the running for the Premier League title.
A good friend of his had told him that when you propose…if it feels right, you’ll know. So, he proposed.
So, we’re getting married 31 August 2014. We found our venue within 8 weeks of the proposal. I found Darwin Lake, in the Peak District, after a very long internet search looking for large self-catering wedding venues. I think that might have been my exact google search term!
We were desperate to have a wedding that meant we didn’t feel like we were on a ‘wedding conveyor belt’ which would see us arriving at a hotel one day, having little say over what we wanted, paying over the odds for items just because it’s a wedding, and leaving the next day just as another wedding checked in.
I quickly learnt that the cheapest places in the UK to hire big self-catering wedding venues were Scotland and the Peak District. Scotland was too far away but the Peak District wasn’t! We saw a few venues in the Peak District but I think I kind of knew as soon as we pulled up into the drive of the venue that I’d fallen in love with it.
We only visited twice. There’s a big path across a lawn from behind the cottages to the venue we will get married in. As I walked up it I thought to myself “I can actually see myself walking up here in my dress to get married” I turned to Jamie to tell him this and he said “this is a nice big lawn, perfect for playing footy on”. How our minds work! The venue and grounds is so peaceful, we’re surrounded by forest, fields and of course the lake within the grounds.
Its catering provision is tiny and while they have tables and chairs, they don’t have crockery or a bar and we literally have to sort everything. But Yvonne and the team are so relaxed and helpful that – as yet – I’m not having a melt down!
So, we had a look around some cottages and the venue, and then went back a week later to take one more look before booking. Darwin Lake has roughly no more than two weddings a month at it so we didn’t want to miss out!
Our theme and style
At the moment, we’re going for a rustic theme. We’re thinking of going very rustic with our food, slightly prompted by small kitchen facilities. So, lots of natural colours and fabrics. We’re really excited by the lighting of the venue… we’re having festoon lighting, and more, provided by Production Light and Sound a Leeds based company who we met with and basically revolutionised our wedding. It’s all very well having in your head how it will look, but actually lighting is incredibly important. Jason and Sarah sat down with us both and talked us through the best use of the venue and different lighting options. It is going to look magical!
We’re at the venue for an entire weekend – so there’s lots of planning to be done for different parts of the wedding. I know there’ll be lots of handmade moments in the wedding and that will no doubt come from friends and family. Especially from my MoH, Cat, who is a Queen of craft. She shares my love for pintrest, shopping and wedding planning!
Just short of 9 months to go…loads to do…looking forward to keeping you posted!